Monday, September 30, 2019

Ireland: Glendalough

On Friday, September 27, I left for Ireland. I had a layover in DC, where Coco met me (with chocolate chip cookies because she's the best) and joined me for the leg to Dublin. This trip came about because Lucy was studying abroad at Queen's University in Belfast for a semester, and Rob and Anna wanted to go visit while she was there. Coco got involved, and then I got involved, and it was a party. My first international trip since marriage. Rob and Anna planned the whole thing. Bags and I were pretty ridiculous when we went through customs. The agent asked what we were doing there, and and we said we were meeting our brother and sister-in-law because our niece was studying abroad, and we didn't really know what we were doing because they planned the trip. He asked where our niece was studying abroad, and we were like, "Um, Belfast?" Didn't know the name of the school. We thought we were kind of amusing, but he did not.

We rented a car for a day. Contrary to all advice, we went with a stick shift and forwent their insurance, as my credit card (on which we put the car) had some coverage. The guy who helped us at the rental car place was 100% certain that we were going to get into an accident. He was basically like, "When you get into an accident, call us and your credit card company." After our week, I can see why he would think that. The majority of tourists must get into accidents. Driving there is crazy on account of no shoulders at all and driving on the left side. I made Coco drive, and she was up for the challenge. She did great.

Saturday she, Lucy, and I went to Glendalough. (Rob and Anna didn't get in until Sunday.) We wandered around the ruins and cool old cemetery with falling-down headstones, and then we hiked to see the lakes. There was a big stair-step section up a hill. (Poor pregnant Coco.) Halfway up, we started hearing music. We were super confused, and I wondered if for some reason there were speakers in the trees or something like at a ski resort. Finally we spotted a couple guys and a girl who appeared to be filming a music video. It was bizarre. Later, when we were down by the water, we saw them filming the girl coming out of the water in a bikini. It was freezing. I really don't know how she survived.





















We saw lots of sheep. I guess that's what they were.



And we saw a bunch of these elk-like things.










Thursday, September 26, 2019

Girl Scouts Camping Trip and Bridging Ceremony

The first weekend in June, Ever's troop went on their last camping trip as Daisies. I didn't go, but Marin (one of the leaders) sent a few pictures.





Then Marin and Sara planned a really wonderful bridging ceremony for June 8, where the girls "bridged" from Daisies to Brownies. It started off with a talk by a ranger, who let the girls touch her snake. I was pleased that all of my creature-phobic girls were brave enough to touch it.




The kids could have played all day on the bars by the bridge. It was all we could do to get them off the bars and over to the bridge for the ceremonial walk.


When it was her turn, Ever took a really long time to walk across the bridge, and when she finally did, she was holding hands with another girl. I wasn't sure what happened and thought maybe she was helping the other girl, who I think was pretty new. Turned out Ever was just nervous. They did some sort of pledge at the end, but I couldn't hear anything.








Back in the picnic area, the girls did a little skit about becoming Brownies.



It took them a while to get their hands all set up for this:


They said the pledge and did a few more cute things.


It was all very lovely, and Marin and Sara did an amazing job. They put in so much work.

After everything was over, Anna and I had a brief chat with Sara about cookies. She'd sent out e-mails the night before telling some of us that we owed money for cookie sales. Cookie season had been over for months, and she sat on the accounting forever. Sara said I owed $124, and Anna owed $56. That meant our combined balance equaled exactly 36 boxes of cookies - three entire cardboard boxes (they come a dozen packages of cookies to a box). Anna and I had pretty much pooled our cookies, and Ever and Leela did all their door-to-door sales together. I tried to keep careful track and make sure we collected money for every box sold. (Sales at Jim's office were confusing since his nurse took around an order form and collected money over a period of time). Anna was meticulous. We knew we had not stolen cookies or embezzled money. (I also realized later that I had made sure that the total amount of money I turned in exceeded the value of the cookies we sold [since we got some donations].) We had no idea how Sara had figured out our balances or how she had known what to attribute to me and what to attribute to Anna. I paid the entire $180 Sara thought we owed collectively, figuring that if anyone had messed up, I had. I told Sara, though, that if she told me I was off $5 or $10, I would've believed it, but I certainly didn't sell that many cookies and not collect money for them. Anna was not pleased about how it was all handled, and we were both bewildered. Nevertheless, during our unproductive discussion about cookies, wherein Sara just said, "I don't know what to tell you; the math all worked out," the girls enjoyed the playground equipment. I had a heck of a time getting them out of there.


Fast forward to August, when Anna figured out why Sara thought we had underpaid. She found a text exchange between her and Sara detailing the exact cookies we returned at the end, when we decided we wouldn't do any more door-to-door sales. I remembered taking all our extra cookies to a troop meeting and setting them on the side of the room. I asked Sara if I needed a receipt, and she said no, she had Anna's text. Leela and Ever weren't credited for all those cookies we returned. I have no idea how in the world Sara worked out the accounting. It's all very confusing. She ended up not being able to be at the meeting at the beginning of this month (September) when we explained to Marin what happened and showed her the texts. Marin believes our account and thinks we should get our money back, but I haven't heard anything further. In any case, Sara has a full-time job with the Girl Scouts now and can't be in charge of cookie money, and Anna and I volunteered to be the cookie people this year. I hope we can avoid anything screwy. It is really hard to keep track of everything, and I don't think Sara stole money. Somehow, though, she messed things up. 

September, Before Ireland

Ever used to have violent fits. It was really awful. She'd get mad at me and scream and get out of control and scary. She pretty much stopped that madness a long time ago, but in early September, she briefly reverted to her old ways. For posterity, here's some of the screaming that occurred after I finally got her to her room.


This was probably the girls' final swim in Leela and Rafi's pool last summer:



We met the Rondos and Gavin and Shawna McEwan at the beach after Jim got home from work one Friday. It was so late by the time we got down there that the sun set as we walked down the beach to where everybody was. Jim took Ever and then Wren out to surf, but they only had about half an hour before it was really late and getting dark. 

Ella went out to surf with Ever. It was frigid, and why she did not bring a wetsuit is a real mystery. She didn't last very long.


Ever on the left, Ella on the right. Nearly holding hands on this long ride. 


Wrenzy stood up for the first time that day and had a long ride. It was really exciting, and she was so cute out there.

Leela came over for a little while, and she and Ever used the time to make up a dance.


It was supposed to end with their touching their BFF heart necklaces together. They forgot that part during the video, so they posed for a picture of that.


Ever started piano lessons with Miss Violetta of California Music Studios.


We don't get Wren out on the bike much, so I fear she'll never learn how to ride. But once in a while, it happens (with training wheels).


Ever's Girl Scout troop did a little beach cleanup. It was supposed to take a few hours, but they ended up finishing after only a short time. Goose is in the tie-dye.



JoAnn started taking the littles to the library on Tuesdays to attend storytime and pick out a bunch of books to borrow. Wrenzy's in the peach dress; Tiny's in the purple.


One of the library books they brought home was about a gigantic cake called a whopper cake. The back of the book contained the whopper cake recipe scaled down for everyday use, and Jim and the girls decided we had to make it.


They very much enjoyed it, although Ever is generally anti frosting and would have preferred it without.



Last year Ever didn't care about the Accelerated Reader (AR) program at school until the end of the year, when she decided to make a push to test on books and earn enough points to get her AR shirt. I didn't care if she didn't care because she was doing plenty of reading; she just wasn't testing on the books she read to get AR credit. This year she went nuts from the get-go. She started racking up points like crazy. She and a girl named Dylan were neck and neck for the top second-grade reader. Every day, Dylan and Ever would check in and see how many points the other had. Apparently Dylan has been the top reader every year. Dylan's teacher from last year was egging Ever on, telling her it was time for a new winner. Dylan (who is gigantic) and Ever earned enough points to get their AR shirts the same day in September. It was the first or second AR assembly of the year. Dylan's first-grade teacher came up to me at the assembly and confirmed that despite Dylan's being "hers," she was, indeed, encouraging Ever because she liked the rivalry.


(The postscript is that the rivalry continued for a couple months, and then Dylan fell further and further behind and then eventually seemed to give up. I think she got demoralized. I feel really bad about it, actually. There are still three fifth graders ahead of Ever, but that's it in the whole school.)

Outside of preschool, Bear Bear tried to fly by flapping her wings and getting some speed. Tiny was (rightly) afraid to follow her lead.


Anna found these adorable pictures on the Cadence website.



I pulled a couple of pictures off Miss Paula's Little Bugs blog 


Monday, September 9, 2019

Things the Kids Have Said, Part 3

Everyone, 3/19

Some phrase triggered me, and I started singing "Do You Hear the People Sing?" one afternoon. Then it occurred to me that I could introduce the girls to Les Miserables. I found it on Pandora. Wrenny was pretty anti at first, but I made her suffer for a few songs. I started telling her and Tiny (Ever was at school) about Jean Valjean, Javert, etc. Then "I Dreamed a Dream" came on. I told the girls they'd like that one, and we listened and talked about Cosette. They really started getting into it. So many questions about all the characters. So very many. The girls were up on the island while I was cooking, and we listened and talked. Tiny declared that she wished she were Cosette. I said that Cosette had a really sad life. So there was more discussion of Cosette. When Ever got home from school, she had to be caught up on the new obsession. When Wren said she was Dorothy (because we'd just finished The Wonderful Wizard of Oz), Tiny said she was Cosette. She started requesting "I Dreamed a Dream" as her bedtime song. I was walking with Wren once, and she said, "Should we sing the Cosette song?" I heard Tiny singing it to herself in her bed after her nap once. So great.

Wren & Arden, 3/22/19

Me (as I was smothering Wren and Tiny with hugs and kisses and squeezes, unable to control myself): "What do I do about my love for you?"
Wren:  "Put it away. Put it away somewhere until we want it."
Me:  "When do you think you'll want it?"
Wren:  "Never."

That afternoon, I was attacking Tiny. She pushed me away and said, "No. Do it another day."

Arden, 3/27/19

Tiny needed to go to the bathroom one  more time before bed. I helped her onto the potty upstairs. She started talking about how big the potty was. When she was done, she said she wanted to show me something. Then she said, "I do this, and this, and this," as she shimmied off the potty and then reached her toes down to the ground. After getting off by herself, she said, "Was that majestic, Mom? Was that majestic?" I just laughed. She continued, "Is that a word?" I said it was. "Was that majestic? Was it cool?"

Wren & Arden, 4/15/19

The girls were playing with Legos together so nicely today. At one point Tiny was a little ways away trying to get her undies on (she'd just taken off the diaper from her nap), and she cried out because she couldn't get them on. Wren immediately dropped her Legos and said, "I'm coming, Tiny!" and went to help. Then they continued playing together, sharing pieces, etc. And I heard this conversation about something that had apparently been put together before:

Tiny: "Did Ever make it?"
Wren: "Jesus already made it."
Tiny: "How did He do that? He's not in our family. Did He come in our house?"

Arden, 5/23/19

Tiny: "You're a girl, and Daddy's a boy because he has ... black hair. People who have black hair are boys."

Wren, 6/3/19

I told Wren we had to be home because a door was going to be delivered.

Wren: "What color is the door?"
Me: "White."
Wren: "I don't like white doors. I only like rainbow doors."

Arden & Wren, 6/5/19

I asked Wrenzy if she wanted breakfast, and she said, "Yes, definitely." She uses "definitely" a lot, and I love it. She asked for "Honey Bunchies," and Tiny said, "You almost said cheese!"

As they ate, Wrenzy talked about how Jim and I will be a grandma and grandpa when they get married and have kids. She said she was scared of getting married because she didn't know what you have to do to get married. I explained. Then she said, "Oh, that's what getting married is?!"

Then they got back on the grandparent thing, and Tiny said to me, "When I'm a mom, you're going to be so little."

Tiny asked, "Who made our bodies?" I wasn't sure how to answer and eventually said, "Mommy and Daddy together made your body." She said excitedly, "I made Mommy and Daddy's bodies and my sisters' bodies. I made everyone's bodies!"

Arden, 6/6/19

Tiny wore warm footed pajamas to bed. Usually she likes her blanket on her, pulled all the way up to her chin, but when I tried to put it on her, she said, "It's too comforty with this [the blanket] on. My jammies are already comforty." "Comforty" is how she says "comfortable."

Arden, 6/12/19

"There are lots of bad words in English, named 'hate.' That's a bad word. It lives in English."

Wren & Arden, 6/13/19

Me, to Wren: "What's your full name?"
Wren, seeming uncertain: "Wrenzypoo-la-vee."
Me: "That's a nickname. What is your first name?"
Wren: "Wrenzy."
I coached her through first, Wren, middle, Mara, and she knew her last name. Then I asked, "So what's your full name?"
Wren: "Wrenzypoo-la-vee."

Me, to Tiny: "Tiny, what's your real name?"
Tiny: "Um, I don't know. Luke."
Me, "Lark is your middle name. What's your first name?"
Tiny: "I don't know."
Me: "Is Tiny your real name?"
Tiny: "Yeah. Tiny."
Me: "No, Tiny is your nickname."
I coached her through Arden Lark Kringel. Then Tiny said: "And my next name is Little Baby when I'm wearing jammies." (Because she still thinks she turns into a baby when she puts on her jammies.)

Arden, 6/15/19

"I just did something that little babies can't do. I rolled down the stairs. That's really scary for other people. It's only for me."

"For my birthday, I want to go ice skating. Because we never ice skate in this country. We only ice skate in other countries."

"This is the first day I'm eating!" Tiny generally boycotts dinner because she's so picky. We had Trader Joe's chicken lime burgers, and she actually ate. It was a summer break miracle.

Arden, 6/16/19

"We're going to stay like this for a hundred years, and then we're going to die. It's taking a long time for us to die."

Wren, 6/29/19

Wren, to Jim, in anticipation of swimming in Cikaneks' pool next door: "I'm going to go to the deep end, and then I'll come back to you in the shallow part."
Jim: "How long will I have to wait?"
Wren: "I don't know. I don't even know what minutes are."

Arden, 7/5/19

Me: "What are you going to wear today?"
Tiny: "Um, my racing clothes because I'm going to race today." Then, pulling out a pair of long underwear pants that look like pink leggings, "These are racing pants. I know because I'm big. I'm going to smoke the other kids!"

Arden, all the time

"Nothing but a nuisance!" Tiny quotes that line all the time. Sometimes I just hear her saying it to herself  - "It's nothing but a nuisance!" None of us could remember what book it was from. Months after she started saying it, we were reading Angelina Ballerina, and we were thrilled when I read the line, "Oh, Angelina, your dancing is nothing but a nuisance!" Finally, mystery solved.

Wren and Arden, 8/1/19

I overheard this conversation in the playroom, all in serious tones, as the girls discussed what to do:

Wren: "That's not fun at all because we don't know how to read."
Arden: "We could just look at books."
Wren: "I don't like to look at books."

Next thing I knew, they were discussing the possibility of swimming in Nathan's pool, and Tiny said:
"I feel sad. I wish we had a pool." (Way to talk through your feelings, Tiny.)

Eventually Tiny came in asking, "Mommy, may we do anything in the make box?" We have a little container where I throw twine and popsicle sticks and a few other odds and ends of craft supplies, and they've called it the "make box" ever since they watched a show where the girl had a "make box."

Arden, 8/15/19

Tiny was singing the ABC song, and the last two lines went like this: "Now I know my ABC's. Won't you dance with me today?"

Wren and Ever, 8/18/19

I think Wren and Ever spent over an hour, maybe two, playing charades while Jim and Tiny napped and I did Primary stuff.  Ever, who was stationed in the playroom, would write something on a tiny slip of paper - "kangaroo," "drawing," "stacking cups," "doing homework," "sad," "yelling," etc. Wren would run in and ask me what it said, "Whisper it!" she would say, trying to be very careful that Ever didn't hear. Then she would run into the playroom and act it out for Ever, who would guess what it was. Surprisingly, Ever generally had an easy time figuring out what Wren was doing. When they finished charades, Ever helped them both color their hair with purple hair chalk and then led some outside play (with Ever in undies because she took off off her church skirt to ensure it didn't get ruined and did not want to replace it with anything). They played so well all afternoon. It was a real triumph.

Wren, 8/19/19

Tiny went potty upstairs, and I went in as she was finishing and found that Wren had left a deposit earlier and not flushed. I told Wren she has to flush, and she got a little cry-ey and told me that she's scared to flush by herself. Tiny flushed the toilet and then went over to Wren, touched her comfortingly, and said, "It's OK, Wren. I flushed for you. Don't be so unhappy. It takes care of hisself." (I'm not really sure what she meant by the last sentence.) In Hansel and Gretel, Hansel says, "Don't be so unhappy" and "Heaven will take care of us" to Gretel after they overhear their dad and stepmother talking about leaving them in the forest.

Shortly after that, as Tiny was putting some clothes away in her dresser, she said exultantly, "Sometimes I almost puke, but I get the pukeness back in my mouth."

Arden, 9/3/19

I'm reading Little House in the Big Woods with all the girls, and they are loving it - even Tiny, who can't possibly understand a lot of it. As she was getting out of the bath tonight, she asked if the girls in Little House in the Big Woods had turbie twists (hair towels). I said no and started listing some of the things we have that they didn't. Each thing I said, she said, "Oh."  Then at the end, after I said they didn't have lights or running water, she said, "Oh. Well, God should have give them those things."

She also said, as she was wrapped in a towel on my lap, that she didn't feel good and her belly hurt. I said, "Do you think you need my loves?" (Because I like to use any opportunity I can find to hug and kiss her, and I pretend that that will cure everything.) She said, "Yes. I think I do. I think I need your loves. To feel better."

Arden, 9/8/19

 I was unhappy with Wren when she spilled something at the table for the second time in a short period. Tiny said, "It's only Wren. We don't do it." Then, "But sometimes I hit you [Wren] on purpose."

Wren, 9/9/19

Wren loves classical music. She told me in the car the other day, as we were listening to the classical station, that she likes JoAnn's music better than ours. (Sounds as if JoAnn plays them kid music.) But then she went on to clarify that she likes the music we were listening to (classical) first, then JoAnn's, then ours.

Today I was flipping through the radio stations trying to find something to listen to. (I'm a dinosaur and don't have the ability to play music from my phone.) As I flipped, she said, "No. No. No." Then, when I landed on classical, "Yes!" The radio guy said Mozart in the Morning was coming up, and I repeated that. She exclaimed, "I love Mozart!"